My hubby and I took a personality test years ago (just for fun) and it showed that we both have boss-y temperaments, probably because we're both the eldest child among our siblings. But somehow, we're quite different in exercising our authoritative nature.
The Choleric. Jeff is the Choleric one. Choleric persons are the typical authoritarian, dominant and powerful bosses. At best, they are take-charge persons, determined and doer. At worst, they are stubborn, impatient and inflexible. When my husband decides on something, it's already hard to argue with him. He always wants to do almost everything his way and sometimes when he decides or does something without my consent, I couldn't help but to feel bad. But when a decision or move doesn't come from him, he's the one feeling bad because he thinks that he's useless. So since I'm the flexible one, I get us to compromise without him knowing that we're compromising at all (and that's my skill, given my temperament which I will discuss later). I let him decide on big and important matters because it makes him feel responsible and valued (like where to invest money, where to take an out-of-town trip, what brand of appliances or electronic device we plan to buy....). Then I do the little bossy gestures at him--- like getting him to turn off the lights for me and getting him to be the first to take a bath in the morning because I am too lazy to get up from bed (haha!).
The Sanguine. I'm the Sanguine between us. Sanguines are people-centered, fun loving, and talkative. They have lots of new ideas, very creative and persuasive. At best, they are very social, expressive, and sincere. At worst, they are exaggerating, compulsive, and very emotional. I'm not a very bossy type like my husband, I sure can persuade him with my magical convincing words or my emotional moods (I just put a pout on my face infront of him, and his heart would melt). At times, Jeff still asks my opinion, especially for new and creative ideas (example, if he couldn't think of how we should spend our date, he would just simply ask me how I like us to spend our romantic date). Most of the time, when I become restless, I would convince him to take the family out for a mall or out-of-town trip, and all I have to do was to talk and talk and talk to him about it until he finally gives in. And if he doesn't give in with my proposals, especially if it would involve cash, I still feel lucky to have him in my life because I still get him to do housechores and little personal favors one-hundred percent (kahit dahil sa katamaran ko lang, he would still do it for me). Sanguines are naturally annoyingly cute, and my husband loves me for that. Hey, it must be the charm. Haha!
Even though Jeff and I are both exercising our own way of being the boss of the house, we still consider God as our Big Boss. God is the one who provides us with our basic needs. God is the one who gives us good health and blessings in life. God is the one who controls our home...and we praise Him for that.